Understanding Self-Sabotage:The Cyc1e

THE CYCLE OF SELF-SABOTAGE

Self-sabotage occurs when we do (or don't do) things that prevent us from achieving our goals or success. It can happen consciously or unconsciously and affect and impact all areas of life, from professional endeavors to friendships and mental health. Our experiences, values, and core beliefs often influence these behaviors, making self-sabotaging patterns challenging to break.

When self-sabotage becomes a pattern, it can quickly deplete our motivation and self-esteem, leaving us disappointed, frustrated, and anxious. If left unaddressed, it can lead to a chronic cycle, leaving us feeling out of control. The cycle often looks something like this:

PERFECTIONIST DEMANDS

We tell ourselves that whatever we're doing must be perfect.

FEAR OF FAILURE

We tell ourselves that something bad will happen if it isn't perfect.

SELF-CRITICISM

We criticize what we're doing and ignore the positives.

LOSS OF CONFIDENCE

When we don't acknowledge progress, we become hopeless.

ANXIETY

We start feeling anxious and or depressed about the project.

PROCRASTINATION

We put off the task to avoid anxiety or depression about the project.

PASSIVE AGGRESSION

We continue putting ourselves and the project down.