Understanding Self-Sabotage: Self-Sabotage vs Self-Preservation

Self-Sabotage vs Self-Preservation

When we peel back the layers of self-sabotage, we see that many self-sabotaging cycles are patterns learned earlier in life as self-preservation. In this case, the same behavior may be necessary and helpful (self-preservation) but unnecessary and unhelpful in another (self-sabotage). For example:

·       As a child, you were expected to do everything perfectly, and mistakes came with consequences.

·       As an adult, you never feel like your work is good enough, so avoid handing it in.

This is how self-preserving behaviors can develop into self-sabotaging behaviors once the 'threat' or potential harm disappears. Breaking these patterns can be complicated and take time.

SELF-PRESERVATION:

A basic evolutionary human instinct developed over time to protect you from harm.

SELF-SABOTAGE:

A pre-emptive response to avoid strenuous or unwanted feelings, thoughts, or outcomes.

SELF-PRESERVATION AND SELF-SABOTAGE:

Things that we do to protect ourselves from real or perceived threats.

Self-sabotage and self-preservation both attempt to protect us. However, self-sabotage occurs when our body attempts to protect us when we don't need protection (when the threat is gone).